Wedding of Kathleen and Kerry
September 12, 2004
Celebrant: Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today in the presence of God, to witness and celebrate the marriage of Kathleen and Kerry. Marriage is an honorable estate, instituted in antiquity and revered since time immemorial as the noblest and tenderest of human relationships. It is therefore not to be entered into lightly, but with faith and forethought.
Today, we have gathered here surrounded by happy memories and loving spirit, to be joyful, in celebration of the relationship of Kathleen and Kerry. By their commitment to marry each other, they are opening to life, to themselves, to family and friends, and to the future.
A wedding ceremony is an outward form. To be true, it must be a symbol of something inner and real. To last, the marriage of these two must be a consecration of each to the other, and of both to the wider community of which they are a part.
Kathleen and Kerry, have you come here in this place of home and family to affirm your commitment to each other?
Bride and Groom: We have.
The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.
Celebrant: Courtesy and consideration even in anger and adversity are the seeds of compassion. Love is the fruit of compassion. Trust, love and respect are the sustaining virtues of marriage. They enable us to discover and learn from the ever-unfolding lessons of marriage, and help us to realize that everywhere we turn we meet our selves. May your journey be blessed with wisdom.
Please repeat after me:
We nourish each other and ourselves in living….
– by, in every way we can, allowing our deepest Self to appear.
– by taking full responsibility for our own life, in all its infinite dimensions.
– by affirming our trust in the honesty and wisdom of our own body, which with our love and reverence always shows us the true way.
– by being committed to embrace all parts of us, including our deepest fears and shadows, without shame, that they may become a source of light.
– by being ever willing to keep our heart open, even in the midst of great pain.
An Untitled Reading by Roy Croft
I love you,
Not only for what you are
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for who
You have made of yourself
But for what you are making of me.
I love you,
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you,
For putting your hand
Into my heaped up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.
Celebrant: Marriage is a birth, as is each triumph that comes with taking risks and opening up to each other, each birth serving to renew these vows ever being born and born again.
The marriage couple would like to convey their love and gratitude to Josh and Jourdain for being in their lives. They are so loved by their Mother and new step dad and are welcomed into a new life together of love, new beginnings and exciting adventures. The constant love that you all have for one another will bless this union and your family from this day forward.
Now Kathleen and Kerry will take their marriage vows.
Bride: I, Kathleen, take you, Kerry, to be my husband, in equal love, as a mirror for my true Self, as a partner on my path, to honor and cherish, in sorrow and in joy, for all that I am and all that I shall ever be. I promise to make every effort to live in awareness and share our love with all upon this earth.
Groom: I, Kerry, take you, Kathleen, to be my wife, in equal love, as a mirror for my true Self, as a partner on my path, to honor and cherish, in sorrow and in joy, for all that I am and all that I shall ever be. I promise to make every effort to live in awareness and share our love with all upon this earth.
These, my love, are my promises to you:
That I will love you freely,
As the sky loves the bird,
As the sunset loves the early evening.
That I will love you grandly,
With my tender fine emotions,
With my loving words and all my actions.
That I will love you purely,
With my honor, with my knowing,
With all the best intentions of my being.
That I will love you joyfully,
With my body, with my laughter,
With my foolishness and playing.
That I will love you truly,
With my finest kindness and my deepest care,
That I will love you always,
Now, from this day forward,
Seamless, endless and forever.
Exchange of Rings
Celebrant: May I have the rings please? Rings are an ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Round like the sun, like the eye, like arms that embrace. Circles, for love that is given comes back round again and again. Therefore, may these symbols remind you that your love, like the sun, illumines; that your love, like the eyes, must see clearly; and that your love, like arms that embrace, is a grace upon this world.
Please repeat after me:
Groom: Kathleen, I give this ring as a symbol of my love.
Bride: Kerry, I give this ring as a symbol of my love.
Celebrant: Kathleen and Kerry have declared their love and purpose before this gathering, and have made their pledge each to the other symbolized by the holding of hands and the giving and receiving of rings. I now pronounce that they are husband and wife. May they continue to share in their marriage the love and awareness they have cultivated since they fell in love.
You may kiss the bride.
Please feel free to use any part of this ceremony as part of your own. Vikki Anderson is available to perform interfaith ceremonies such as weddings, baptisms, welcoming ceremonies as well as naming and handfasting ceremonies. See http://www.VikkiAnderson.net under Interfaith Minister for more information about ceremonies and weddings. 973-492-3110. Email: Starscape50@optonline.net.