Back Yard Wedding Ceremony

Bridal Walk

Friends – Sing & Play on guitar: Turn, Turn, Turn or song of your choice

Celebrant: We have come here today to witness the marriage of John and Dee. May they continue to deepen their life with each other and with their family and friends.

Marriage begins in the giving of words. We cannot join ourselves to one another without giving our word and this must be an unconditional giving.

May I extend my joy to you on this happy occasion John and Dee, you are about to take a new step forward into life. This day is made possible not only because of your love for each other, but through the grace of your parents and of the whole society. It is my hope that your fulfillment and joy in each other and in yourselves will increase with each passing year.

The First reading will be The Key to Love, read by ____________.

The key to love is understanding …

as it is the little things that say so much by themselves.

The key to love is forgiveness ….

to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes.

The key to love is sharing … Sharing and facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together; both conquering problems, forever searching for ways to intensify your happiness.

The key to love is giving …

Giving without thought of return, but with the hope of just a simple smile, and by giving in but never giving up.

The key to love is respect …

Respect realizing that you are two separate people, with different ideas; that you don’t belong to each other, that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.

The key to love is inside us all …

It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take you to its threshold; it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work … but the rewards are more than worth the effort … and that is the key to love.

Celebrant: Love is a miraculous gift, and a wedding is a celebration of that magic, and that is what we are here to do today. We all live in the hope to love and be loved, and any sign of the blossoming of love is a true inspiration.

We are gathered together to be overjoyed for and with John and Dee who are so wonderfully suited to one another. It is a pure delight for the rest of us to see how happy two people can be. That they have found each other and know in their souls how perfectly mated they are, and that they are choosing on this day of most special days to become for all time, the accurate and beautiful reflection of each other’s essence is a blessing.

Therefore, we give thanks for the pure happiness of John and Dee. Their enthusiasm is electric, their belief in the destiny of their love is inspiring, and their great expectations encourage us beyond measure. Marriage is a very special place, we ask that the vision they have of one another always be spellbinding and radiant, just as the power that first brought them together. We pray that as they move into marriage, that they always hold one another in the light of all light, the love of all love.

Today is also a celebration for the rest of us, for it is also a pleasure to participate in their wedding. It lifts our spirits to be in the presence of their love, to bask in the sweet energies of two people who obviously adore one another, who want to play together, laugh together, live together and be together for all the days of their lives.

John and Dee, remember that a relationship is a progression, your love will have seasons like Nature itself. There is an old Chinese proverb that says: “The Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” and now your journey has begun.

Your wedding today is an exquisite and beautifully choreographed first step. With it you are passing through a portal that will lead to many places, including ones you cannot possibly ever imagine. Wherever it takes you, there will be surprises, for this is the mark of a truly loving relationship – which it will take you where you had not expected to go. Above all, remember that love is what matters. Love will prevail. It is the love you feel for one another that will be the answer to all of your difficulties.

And so today we are here to celebrate, to honor, to laugh, to dance, and to be glad because the inevitable has finally come true. Love is alive and well in this land. John and Dee are here to prove it and we are here to celebrate with them.

Congratulations, John and Dee, the real fun has just begun!

A Reading by _____________

After a while, you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and sharing a life
and you learn that love doesn’t mean possession
and company doesn’t mean security
and loneliness is universal
And you learn that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept defeats
with your head up and your eyes open.

And you learn to build your hope on today
as the future has a way of falling apart in mid-flight
because tomorrow’s ground can be too uncertain for plans;
yet each step taken in a new direction creates a path
toward the promise of a brighter dawn
And you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and nourish your own soul
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn that love, true love
always has joys and sorrows
seems ever present, yet is never quite the same
becoming more than love and less than love
so difficult to define
And you learn that through it all
you really can endure
that you really are strong
that you do have value
and you learn and grow.

Celebrant: Now John and Dee will take their wedding vows. Do you, John take Dee to be your wife? Do you promise to support her, comfort her in times of trouble, and to share your happiness in times of joy? Do you promise to respect her and treat her as an equal partner in your life? Do you promise to love her completely and unconditionally and to cherish each moment you have together for as long as you both shall live?

Groom: I do.

Celebrant: Do you, Dee take John to be your husband? Do you promise to support him, comfort him in times of trouble, and to share your happiness in times of joy? Do you promise to respect him and treat him as an equal partner in your life? Do you promise to love him completely and unconditionally and to cherish each moment you have together for as long as you both shall live?

Bride: I do.

Celebrant: May I have the rings please? Rings are an ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Round like the sun, like the eye, like arms that embrace. Circles, for love that is given comes back round again and again. Therefore, may these symbols remind you that your love, like the sun, illumines; that your love, like the eyes, must see clearly; and that your love, like arms that embrace, is a grace upon this world.

Groom: Dee, I give this ring as a symbol of my love.

Bride: John, I give this ring as a symbol of my love.

Celebrant: John and Dee have declared their love and purpose before this gathering, and have made their pledge each to the other symbolized by the holding of hands and the giving and receiving of rings. I now proclaim that you are husband and wife.

You may kiss the bride.

Please let us welcome John and Dee into our community as husband and wife. (Applause) Let all honor them and the threshold of their house. May they continue to share in their marriage the love and awareness they have cultivated since they fell in love.



Please feel free to use any part of this ceremony as part of your own. Vikki Anderson is available to perform interfaith ceremonies such as weddings, baptisms, welcoming ceremonies as well as naming and handfasting ceremonies.  See under Interfaith Minister for more information about ceremonies and weddings.  973-492-3110.  Email:


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