Elena and Fabio’s Wedding
February 16, 2008
Celebrant: Before we begin, let us take a few deep breaths, leaving stress and negativity behind as we fill ourselves up with positive energy, love, happiness and joy. Let us settle into our surroundings and be present to the beauty of this moment, this occasion and of this place. Whenever you are worried or stressed in every day matters, may you always recall this beautiful day, this joyous ceremony and the commitment of love that you share with your family and friends. May these thoughts always bring you to a peaceful place in your mind’s eye and give you the strength and wisdom you need to handle any challenge that may arise before you.
Elena will now light a candle asking God to grace us with light and love. Help us open our consciousness so that we may receive your blessing.
Fabio will now light the second candle to invite our ancestors to be with us this day, and know that both those we remember, and those who passed before our time, have not been forgotten.
Both Elena and Fabio will light the last candle with their individual candles to bless them as one spirit, one divine path and one glorious life together and a future filled with love and happiness.
We also ask our spirit guides and guardian angels to join us today. You have gently guided and protected all of us since our births. We thank you and ask for your continued guidance and love, especially for Elena and Fabio who will be joined in holy matrimony today. We ask that they will continue to be loving partners forever.
Elena and Fabio, you have arranged this gathering of family and friends today to affirm your love and commitment, not only to one another, but also to all of your loved ones who are witnesses at this blessing today. It is a wonderful thing to look ahead and envision what your life will be like together. This blessing has come to you from simply loving one another. Imagine the future with not only your love to guide you, but also the love you may share with those you love and care for deeply. May love, respect, wisdom and joy bless you all the days of your lives.
Things will change, yet remain remarkable the same. Moments that were taken for granted in the past will now be more meaningful than ever before. You will rejoice in little things and will now include each other in all of your dreams and goals as well as all of your decisions and concerns. You have become equal partners and will find that you will think of your spouse’s well being before your own, a sign of true love.
Now, as you stand at the very beginning of your marriage, your love for each other grows beyond what you knew to be possible. It is with great hope that you can look towards the future and yet again see all possibilities that lie before you as a family of love and light.
Blessed are the man and the woman who have grown beyond themselves and have seen through their separations. They delight in the way things are and keep their hearts open, day and night. They are like trees planted near flowing rivers, which bear fruit when they are ready. Your love for one another is the fruit of your commitment to one another and a miraculous future together. May the blessings of the God follow your family all the days of your lives. Let them keep watch over you and gently guide you onto your true paths of spirituality and enlightenment. They, who are the great Mother and Father of the universe and of all humanity, want you to know from now until all eternity, you will never again be lonely or alone.
After a while, you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and sharing a life
and you learn that love doesn’t mean possession
and company doesn’t mean security
and loneliness is universal
And you learn that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept defeats
with your head up and your eyes open
And you learn to build your hope on today
as the future has a way of falling apart in mid-flight
because tomorrow’s ground can be too uncertain for plans
yet each step taken in a new direction creates a path
toward the promise of a brighter dawn
And you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and nourish your own soul
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that love, true love
always has joys and sorrows
seems ever present, yet is never quite the same
becoming more than love and less than love
so difficult to define
And you learn that through it all
you really can endure
that you really are strong
that you do have value
and you learn and grow.
Elena and Fabio have chosen each other from the many men and women on this earth, have declared their love for one other to this community and gathering and have shared their love selflessly to bring hope, love and peace into the world through this union. In mutual self-consecration and in ever deepening love for each other and your family, may you establish a home filled with the spirit of faith, truth, goodness and eternal love for each other, your children and your families and for all sentient beings on this earth and beyond. May your union be a source of love, inspiration, commitment and much happiness to you both.
Through this next reading, these are the things you promise to one another:
To love you,
To be a comfort and safe haven in your life,
To hold you close,
To listen deeply when you are sad or angry,
To learn compassion with you,
To nourish you with my gentleness,
To uphold you with my strength,
To love your body as it ages,
To weight the effects of the words I speak and of the things I do,
To never take you for granted, but always give you thanks for your presence.
As our lives unfold together,
I promise to be faithful,
To always express my emotional truth and
embrace you as both teacher and student as we do what life calls us to,
individually and in our relationship.
I give you my love,
I give you my heart,
I give you my hope,
I give you with joy,
all of my precious time and
the rest of the days of my life.
Do you Elena take Fabio to be your husband, in equal love, as a mirror for your true Self, as a partner on your path, to honor and cherish, in sorrow and in joy, for all that you are and all that you ever shall be. Do you promise to make every effort to live in awareness, kindness and compassion and share your love freely with your husband?
Elena: I will. Fabio puts the wedding ring on Elena’s finger.
Do you Fabio take Elena to be your wife, in equal love, as a mirror for your true Self, as a partner on your path, to honor and cherish, in sorrow and in joy, for all that you are and all that you ever shall be. Do you promise to make every effort to live in awareness, kindness and compassion and share your love freely with your wife?
Fabio: I will. Elena puts the wedding ring on Fabio’s finger.
A reading on Love on this very special day….
These, my love, are my promises to you:
That I will love you freely,
As the sky loves the bird,
As the sunset loves the early evening.
That I will love you grandly,
With my tender fine emotions,
With my loving words and all my actions.
That I will love you purely,
With my honor, with my knowing,
With all the best intentions of my being.
That I will love you joyfully,
With my body, with my laughter,
With my foolishness and playing.
That I will love you truly,
With my finest kindness and my deepest care,
That I will love you always,
Now, from this day forward,
Seamless, endless and forever.
Elena and Fabio have declared their love and purpose before this gathering, and have made their pledge each to the other symbolized by the holding of hands and the giving and receiving of rings. May they continue to share in their marriage the love and awareness they have cultivated since they fell in love. I now pronounce that they are husband and wife.
You may kiss the bride.
Please feel free to use any part of this ceremony as part of your own. Vikki Anderson is available to perform interfaith ceremonies such as weddings, baptisms, welcoming ceremonies as well as naming and handfasting ceremonies. See http://www.VikkiAnderson.net under Interfaith Minister for more information about ceremonies and weddings. 973-492-3110. Email: Starscape50@optonline.net.